Re: [Yaadein_Meri] : Advice to Daughter in-laws Part 1

Assalam O Alaikum   An ultimate guidance to the Islamic daughters & daughters - in- law, Appeal and pray to Allah to guide our daughters and daughter in law to make this world a better place as desired and guided in Quraan & Hadeeth. May Allah helps all of us in this crucial time. Regards Zubair --- On Sat, 11/17/12, Iqbal Shaikh <shaikh.iqbal9999@yahoo.com> wrote: From: Iqbal Shaikh <shaikh.iqbal9999@yahoo.com> Subject: [Yaadein_Meri] : Advice to Daughter in-laws Part 1 To: Date: Saturday, November 17, 2012, 10:38 PM Advice to Daughter-in-Laws By Moulana Abdul Hameed Ishaq   1. Accept your in-laws as your own parents. You have them to thank for the wonderful man who has become your life partner. 2. Don't compare them to your parents as to show your spouse how inadequate his parents are. 3. If your in-laws give a gift, appreciate it and do not pass unkind remarks. 4. Praise them often in the presence of your husband, family, and friends in that way, even though you have not grown to like them, you will in time. 5. Realize that they are also humans. They have their faults. You would never disown your parents for their flaws, so how can you expect the same from your husband's parents? Hide their faults. Allah Ta'ala will conceal your faults in the hereafter. 6. Lower your expectations. As much as you might feel that marriage is a huge adjustment to you, having their son married is an adjustment for them too. Their son no longer belongs exclusively to them. You will now have to learn to share. 7. Treat them respectfully. A bad word creates a permanent rift. 8. When your children show them love, be thankful rather than jealous. Would you deprive your own children of the love of their grandparents, confining them only to the love of your own parents because of jealousy? How would you feel if your brother's wife did the same with your parents? 9. Do all you can to make them feel at home when they come by to visit. When you visit them, assist them as much as possible. They should feel pleased when you come.   Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians 223 Alpine Road, Overport, Durban Tel : +27 (0) 31 2077099 Fax : +27(0) 31 2074163 Website : www.jamiat.org.za To subscribe, reply to this email with SUBSCRIBE in the subject line. To unsubscribe, reply to this email with UNSUBSCRIBE in the subject line.